So, today, I’d just like to talk about something that has been bothering me a lot recently and that is:
– friends who get offended easily and clingy friends. –
I have two groups of ‘best friends’ – one from my current and one from my previous school – and the ones from my older school I’ve known for 10 years (or more). With them, I’m used to being able to say whatever I feel like saying – and I have a friend there whom I can call all the terrible names you probably wouldn’t like to be called (and she does it to me too). (eg. idiot, jerk, *censure here*, all the farm animals you can think of, etc.) We basically bully each other, but we do it with love. hahaha! I’ve known her for such a long time that she’s become like a sister to me and so, naturally, she doesn’t get offended when I say something like that. It’s become an ‘inside joke’ of a sort.
The other group I’ve known for around 3 years but have been hanging out about 2 (years). At first I was well aware that I can’t act the same way around them as I do with my older friends, but as time passed I got a bit more comfortable and started ‘gently bullying’ them. (not really, it’s a joke and they know it) It’s just my way of expressing fondness and comfort – the more I bully you, the more I like you. (there are a few exceptions to this)
The girl I’m closest to in the group (because she is in almost all of my classes, so I see her a lot) is a very (very!!) clingy, emotional person and whenever I throw a little sarcastic comment, she gets kinda blue, sighs and says ‘Nobody loves me…’ or something like that. Not true, of course. She is very (sometimes overly) positive, though.
So, as I was saying, the clinger always gets offended and doesn’t get sarcasm. Then, when I say ‘Tell me if it’s bothering you, I’ll stop’ she replies with a ‘No, no, that’s okay… No one loves me..’ And it drives me mad. I mean, if it really bothers you, say it, sunshine.
Another thing – masochism. She does that. A lot. I mean, seriously, she lets everybody take advantage of her. And it breaks my heart because after she’s out of school and in the ‘real world’, people will crush her!
I don’t know which language to use to explain to her that if she keeps acting like a clinger, people will keep taking advantage of her and ‘use’ her for their own good. Imagine if these things were done to her by a person that doesn’t give two… poops… about her? She needs to learn to a) defend herself, b) speak her mind and actually have an oppinion (because that’s another thing she’s lacking) and c) stop being so clingy! It’s for her own good!
We’re basically trying to make her stronger because when we all separate, leave schools, she’ll get crushed by the real world.
I don’t know, I just had that on my mind and had to write it down. If she’s somehow, by any chance reading this, get your ish together, girlfriend!
And that’s it for this post. 🙂 I hope you enjoyed or were able to relate in a way…
Do you have a clingy friend or are you maybe that emotional friend?
And what are your thoughts on my story?
Tell me in the comments, I’d love to know if I’m being to harsh, do I need to just back down a bit because it’s hopeless or do I keep trying to tell her that. 🙂
Thank you so much for reading and I’ll see you soon. 😀